On a Tangent

A space to share our experiences and thoughts.

Alysia Christiaen Alysia Christiaen

Child-Free Isn’t the Choice That Needs Explaining

Jennifer Lawrence recently flipped a familiar script: why do child-free people get grilled about their choice, while people who want kids rarely get asked if they're sure? This piece runs with that idea arguing that parenthood, not childlessness, is the decision that deserves real scrutiny, and that kids deserve to be wanted, not just expected.

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Child-Free Doesn’t Mean Care-Free

The "office spare battery"—that's how child-free workers have long been treated, expected to cover late meetings, extra assignments, and holiday shifts because managers assume they have nothing else going on. But a 2009 study revealed the truth: these workers were never care-free. They were supporting family financially, providing direct caregiving, and caring for pets. Seventeen years later, the demographic has shifted dramatically—nearly half of adults under 50 now say they're unlikely to ever have kids—yet the workplace script has barely changed. With one in four American adults now a caregiver and eldercare becoming an urgent reality, it's time employers stopped pretending care only counts when it flows down to children. Care runs upward to elders, outward to siblings and friends, and inward to the commitments that make a life.

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The Government Does Not Belong in the Bedroom

As governments grow increasingly concerned about declining birth rates, the conversation around reproduction is shifting in troubling ways. What begins as economic policy can quickly become social pressure — especially for women. This article explores why reproductive autonomy matters, why pronatalist policies often miss the real issue, and why women do not owe the state, the economy, or society children.

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Not Wanting Kids is Not a Debate

A recent episode of the Smartless podcast where hosts Jason Bateman and Sean Hayes interview Charli xcx exemplifies both the dumb response and the unwarranted examination when she told them that she didn’t want to have kids.

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The Myth of the Discontented Child-Free Worker

It is often assumed that child-free employees are less satisfied at work — quietly disengaged, under-rewarded, or disadvantaged by so-called “family-friendly” workplace policies that do not reflect their lives.

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Seth Rogen: True and Child-Free

Seth Rogen is a man who is open about his and his wife, Lauren Miller’s, desire not to have children. And that is what makes me love him even more.

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Monsters, Misfits, and the Childless*: A Troubling Cinematic Trend

Forming a family and having children is often portrayed as a key part of a fulfilling life. Many hold this to be true. But what happens when this dream doesn't come true? A study explores how films portray involuntary childlessness and how these portrayals contribute to the stigma of those without children.

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